The Church & Singles

A ministry friend reminded me yesterday that the church does not handle singles very well.  I didn’t really need to be reminded of that fact, but he raised it as an important issue to discuss — and I agree.

I think the last church I was at did an exceptionally good job of integrating singles into the life of the church. Part of this was demographics (60% under 30 and 60% single). And part of was intentionality from a leadership level (offering dating workshops and seminars, creating a culture where singles were valued and welcomed in leadership, avoiding the “meat market” and other traps of “singles ministry”.

And even then, I know a lot of singles really struggled… especially, I think, older singles (30’s, 40’s, 50’s. 60’s).  

I would love to hear your thoughts, suggestions, and ideas.

What have you seen that works? What doesn’t? If single, what can the church do to better support you?