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Three years ago this Sunday, I gave a sermon about Ted Haggard and how Christians should respond to the situation. One of the strange things about having all my sermons online is that I cannot escape the words I have spoken publicly. While my situ… →

I wanted to add one more thought from my previous post about why I say that I am gay as opposed to using the language of “struggle with homosexuality” or “struggle with same-sex attraction”… This is going to sound vulgar and I do not mean it tha… →

I like it when blog readers submit questions they want me to address here. It helps create a real sens eof dialogue, which is part of the point of this blog. One reader asked me this today: “Can you put up a post on the difference between saying “… →

One of the things I am learning to do these days is to live fully in PLAN B. It has been almost 6 months since my life blew up. In one sense, that is a very long time; in other ways it is a very short time. One of the hard things about finding joy… →

Scot McKnight has posted a prayer for Ft. Hood. I want to pass it on to you all. Our prayers are with the families of the dead, for the wounded and for the families of the wounded. Gracious God, the comfort of all who sorrow, the strength of all w… →

I am asked a lot about what I think should have happened at the church in regard to my situation. I have frankly avoided the question (and this post) for a while now, because (1) I try not to second-guess the church’s leadership publicly, and (2) … →

A lot of people have asked me (or are asking), “who knew what when?” about me and why I did not disclose being gay to the church before all of this happened. The simple answer to why I did not disclose is that there was no way to do so without res… →

I am an unapologetic and unashamed fan and admirer of Rick Warren. I consider him one of my most important mentors — through his writing, teaching, training, encouragement and prayers. For what it is worth, I think Rick is at his best when he is … →

Recently someone close to me said “I am really sorry that you have to deal with being gay.” He meant it from the heart and I understood exactly what he was saying. But it got me thinking… is being gay all bad? Would I change the past if I could … →

How do you measure spiritual growth as a follower of Jesus? This is not as easy as it sounds. How do you know if someone is becoming more like Jesus? Traditionally, churches have looked at participation and behavior as metrics. Participation measu… →