BEN DUBOW

Running the Way

Category: Church

  • Faith Autopsy Small Group Discussion Guides

    Here are two different 7-week small group/book club discussion guides. The first one looks at the “Clobber Passages” chapters. The second looks at “Building a Positive Theological Framework & Ethic” for both affirming churches and LGBTQ+ people. Depending on your interests and needs, you may want to consider doing both over 14 weeks, or choosing →

  • Sample Covenant Ethic Summary (for leaders, couples, singles, small groups)

    Appendix N Applies to everyone—straight, gay, bi, trans, single, dating, engaged, married. Our goal is integrity, safety, and love that looks like Jesus. 1) Core Commitments 2) Wisdom > Line-Drawing (for sexual decision-making) Ask together (and with a trusted pastor/mentor as needed): Note on sex outside civil marriage: Scripture doesn’t offer a tidy proof-text that →

  • Ten Tips for Youth Leaders & Preachers

    Appendix I →

  • Pastoral Scenarios and Practiced Responses

    Appendix B 1) Teen comes out to a leader: Thank them. Name their courage. Ask how safe they feel at home and school. Clarify confidentiality and mandated‑reporting limits. Offer to talk with parents when they’re ready. Follow‑up within 48 hours with one concrete next step (coffee, trusted mentor, small group). 2) Trans congregant requests name/pronouns: →

  • Saved Twice: Pastor Nancy

    I am saved by Jesus—and I also experienced salvation through a white, middle-class, middle-aged, cisgender, heterosexual woman: Rev. Nancy Butler. When my world blew up, Nancy showed up. She hired me in the church office—just enough structure and a paycheck to get me off the couch and back among people. She leveraged her gift as →

  • A New Role

    Today, during a congregational meeting, the members of Riverfront Family Church, called a team of new pastors to co-lead the church. This comes after months of prayer and discernment by the leadership, board, transition team and members. Named as the new Co-Pastors are three current members of the church, including myself. Each of us will be →

  • Why Survivor’s ‘Broadway Boyfriends’ will keep singing with Hillsong Church – On Faith & Culture

    Here is an interesting follow up the story flying around the internet last week about Hillsong NY & LGBT folks… Why Survivor’s ‘Broadway Boyfriends’ will keep singing with Hillsong Church – On Faith & Culture. Here is my post, partially in reaction to Brian Houston’s statement on the situation. Overall, I think this is an excellent →

  • Just Because He Breathes…

    “On the night of Nov. 20, 2001, a conversation held over Instant Messenger changed our lives forever. Our 12-year-old son messaged me in my office from the computer in his bedroom. Ryan says: can i tell u something Mom says: Yes I am listening Ryan says: well i don’t know how to say this really but, well……, i →

  • For the Christian Part of Me, I am Sorry

    This is a powerful video and poem of confession by artist and writer Joel McKerrow →